Sunday, 26 January 2014

Time to Start Simplifying

Wow - this is my 200th post, so I'm pleased that it's on something new, that signals the start of my 2014 journey. Yes, I am full aware that we are almost a month into 2014 already, but I'm a bit slow sometimes.

I thought that, to start my quest to simplify things that I do, I would get started with some easy wins that can be done from the comfort of my sofa - yep, still feeling a bit rubbish after the dental surgery.

So, what can I do to make my Internet time more productive? Or at least less time consuming...

Blogs     -     I follow quite a few blogs, but they come to me from a couple of different places. Some come to me via Blogger when I go to my home page there, whereas others (some by people who post a lot) come to me via email. I really need to get these out of my inbox and add them to my reading list as I am finding that I am getting overwhelmed by the number of emails arriving into my inbox each day.

Facebook     -     Reduce the amount of posts I can see from various people. Some people post a lot of things that are funny, motivational, cute, informative, etc. and some of these are lovely or even useful. However, they take up a lot of time when it comes to checking out what's going on, especially when you're like me and if the post interests you, you end up reading all the comments on the post, and possible following links to other posts - it's like a rabbit warren that you can never come out of... In theory I could also stop checking on the groups that I am a member of so often, but if I can't sort that out then I will step out of some of these groups. In fact - some of them I should probably just step out of anyway...

Emails     -     Once I have moved the blogs to my reading list my inbox will be a much more manageable place. However, my other big influx comes from these health/wellbeing/ development subscriptions. They may be great for some people, but for me, realistically I know I will never read them, but I keep them in case I find something really useful in there for me when I finally have time to read them. I need to use that unsubscribe link at the bottom of each one as they come in so that I don't get any more from them. I also need to sort my inbox (which is a total state, mainly due to the subscriptions), file the ones that I need to keep, delete the others, and archive some of the mails that are already filed.

Any suggestions that you may have of other tips that could help me in this area would be greatly appreciated.

LJx

101 Project Decision

OK guys, so it's time to make that decision - stop or go...?

If I were to stop now, and chose to focus on my key words from scratch, how many of the 14 items still on my 101 list would be on my list of things to do?

-     Watch 10 classic films (3 left)
-     Cooking/baking with the boys
-     12 date nights with Ben (6 left)
-     Embroider a sampler.
-     Learn 6 new recipes (2 to go)
-     30 minutes per day to relax/meditate for two weeks.
-     Buy some nice high heels and wear them. (not worn yet)
-     Journal daily for two weeks (15 minutes minimum).
-     Keep to a basic household routine using my Plannerisms planner.Yes
-     Set up a recipe binder
-     Manage bank accounts properly.Yes
-     Sort through the hallway cupboardsYes
-     Sort through the boxes upstairs that haven't been unpacked yetYes
-     3 month Facebook ban Yes

Wow - not many of them. Some of the other items I would still like to do, but either they are not urgent, or I wouldn't necessarily want to restrict them to a set period of time.

Having reviewed my options in the level of detail that I have (and dragged you through my messy mind), I think I am ready to make the decision, and I feel the right thing for me to do is to step away from my 101 in 1001 days, congratulate myself on the things I have achieved and let the rest go.

Thank you for listening to my ramblings, and helping to make my 101 challenge happen. I know not everything was achieved, but a lot of what was completed wouldn't have even been started if I had not made myself accountable by sharing in this blog.

Have a great week.

LJx

Saturday, 25 January 2014

101 Progress and Rethink

It's been a while since I last posted an update on my 101 in 1001 days challenge (a whole month), and I have been very lax on this for a few reasons.

1)     It's been very busy at work with year end and reporting
2)     I started doing P90X3 on January 6th, so that rather cuts into my available time
3)     I seem to have lost my motivation, and when I look at that list now I don't see things that I want
        to do, but that I now feel I ought to do because back in October 2011 I said I would like to.

This post may end up being ridiculously long while I basically talk myself through the whole decision process regarding what to do, and for this I apologise now.

As always at the start of a new year, people start to make resolutions, think about their futures, and motivational quotes get posted everywhere. I haven't made any new year's resolutions, but I have chosen a couple of key words to help guide me through the year: Simplify, and Health.

Simplify could apply to my work as well as my personal stuff, and could potentially help me in my quest to simplify processes (simpler processes generally give less opportunity for user error in my experience). The company I work for will be changing ownership later this year, so I believe a large part of my focus will be on assisting in the integration process, and if I can help by trying to consider some easy wins in this through simplification (especially in the early stages), then that would be great.

Obviously with big changes at work I will be kept very busy, and therefore need to simplify more at home, potentially reducing my own personal challenges, and getting more routines in place.

Due partly to the need to simplify my life (and be more help at home), and partly to my lack of motivations mentioned in point three above, I was considering just bailing out of my 101 challenge completely, but it would be a shame to just give up without checking it out properly first. There are various things that I need to consider as there are only five months left to complete this, The sensible thing is probably to go through my options one by one:

 Option 1:     Just keep plugging away at the tasks and see how far I can get by the end.
                     -    I could do this, but don't see myself getting any more motivated, so think I would be
                          setting myself up to beat myself up for the next five months... pretty pointless I think
                          you'll agree

Option 2:     Pat myself on the back for what I have achieved and call it a day.
                    -     currently I have achieved 68 of the 101, most of which I wouldn't have done at all if
                          it hadn't been for this challenge, with a further 13 in progress. But do I want to admit
                          defeat yet?

Option 3:     Go through the remaining challenges to see if they fit in with my keywords for the year
                    and make changes where they don't.
                    -     I see this as a happy medium, and feel I should at least take a look at this option
                          before pulling out of the project.

So, what challenges are outstanding?

-     Load all music on tapes to iTunes. This doesn't fall in with either of my keywords, and at the
      moment the tapes are buried somewhere in the cellar.

-     Have music playing all day & no TV/ computers for whole family (x3). Another thing that I
      would love to have happen, but don't see this falling in with my keywords. It may sound like a
      simplified life kind of thing, but when you have boys aged 6 & 8 who are used to having  these
      things, then taking them away is not going to feel simple...

-     Watch 10 classic films - I am 7 and a half down. No, still not finished watching Some Like it Hot
      yet, although I did watch The Shawshank Redemption and How to Steal a Million (Audrey
      Hepburn & Peter O'Toole) today while I was off work after dental surgery which has left me
      feeling a bit wobbly. Related to my keywords? Not really...

-     Watch 10 musicals (films) - actually, checking this again I have actually completed this task now
      as I watched Mary Poppins and The Wizard of Oz over Christmas and New Year.

-     Spend 10 minutes teaching/listening to boys reading. Obviously I have spent more than 10
      minutes doing this so technically I could cross it off, but when I wrote it I actually meant 10
      minutes a day. As much as I would love this to happen every day, my boys just aren't that
      interested. Christopher is pretty good at reading in both English & German, but would rather read
      alone, and Marcus would rather be learning to write and as he is due to start school in August
      then I'm happy for him to take it as he wants. Maybe I'll get them into reading with me on a daily
      basis at some point, but for now it would definitely not simplifying anything.

-     One big family day out every month. We tend to go out for half a day rather than a whole day
      when we go out. The boys are so busy in the week that when the weekend comes they are happy
      to go out for half a day, and want to spend the other day having a PJ day and just playing at home.
      When the weather warms up again we'll be back to visiting the zoo and the wilderness park,  
      which are their favourite places to go. Both are now cycling well, so we take them up to the
      school house to play on their bikes when it's not too wet out, and they are happy doing that.
      Would insisting on making one of our trips out each month for a whole day make anything
      simpler? I doubt that very much...

-     Teach boys to swim or arrange lessons. Christopher has been having lessons at school, but still
      isn't confident in the water and spends most of his time seeing how far he can go underwater, but
      stay in water that isn't out of his depth as he's not so good at staying above the water. Marcus will
      be starting lessons when he goes to school, but there are no classes with spaces near us at the
      moment. In theory we could try to take them swimming every week, but as I'm not a good
      swimmer myself, and we are already so busy at weekends trying to catch up all the outstanding
      stuff from in the week, I don't see that this would simplify things for any of us at the moment.

-     10 photos sessions with the boys. As much as I love having pictures of my boys, they really are
      not ones to want to spend more than about two minutes posing for the camera, and I don't really
      want to get myself (and them) stressed out by trying to get perfect photos of them.

-     Write a short story for the boys. I mentioned this to them, and to be honest, they really weren't
      that interested in having me write a story just for them. I am not a natural writer (I hated having to
      write essays at school), if I were I'd probably be able to class this under health - but for me it
      would probably be more of an anti-health thing.

-     12 date nights with Ben (6 down, 6 to go). Simple? I wish. Babysitters over here are crazy
      expensive, and as nice as it is to have a date night at home, realistically, by the time the boys are
      in bed, we're both shattered and want to just chill. We will have date nights, but as we've managed
      six in fifteen months, there is no way we're going to feel relaxed even trying to fit another six into
      the next five months.

-     Take a one hour walk on my own (x3) - doing this would be good for my health, and potentially
      feel simple for the hour that it was happening, what's not simple is finding the time to be away
      from the family to do this. Weekends is our family time, during the week we're all so busy with
      both of us working full time that there is no time for this - certainly not until the summer :-)

-     Become confident enough to hold a conversation in German. Actually, thinking about it I do have
      conversations in German - would I like to be more confident? Yes, of course. But am I good
      enough to do what I need to do? Yes. So I can class this one as complete.

-     Embroider a sampler. I had to change this to a picture as I couldn't get hold of a sampler apart
      from in a cross stitch kit, and started this over Christmas. I have enjoyed what I have done so far,
      and have bought a basic booklet that shows different types of stitches to try. I would like to
      continue this, and it is good for relaxation, but is it essential? Not really, and I would rather be
      doing it as something in my spare time, than trying to force it into a deadline.

-     Read 5 books in German - really? Is this going to simplify things for me? No. I thought this
      would be a good way to become more comfortable with the language, but I don't find sitting with
      a book and a dictionary works for me.

-     Write a poem - relaxing? For some.... Simplifying or healthy? For me... no

-     Learn 6 new recipes (2 to go). This could be healthy, even homemade cakes would be healthier
      than shop bought ones right?

-     Take camera on days out and use it - I have done this on occasion, but generally Ben is the one
      with the camera, not me.

-     30 minutes per day to relax/meditate for two weeks. This definitely falls under health :-)

-     Learn to use a proper camera. This definitely does not fall into the category "Simplify" for me,
      and again, as with the embroidery, I would still like to do it at some point, but without any
      pressure.

-     Buy some nice high heels and wear them. I bought some boots with heels for work, does that
      count? Although I haven't worn them yet... Not health related though, or anything to do with
      simplifying things.

-     Give more praise at work and at home. It's not really measurable, but I feel that I have actually
      achieved this. Yay!!!

-     Journal daily for two weeks (15 minutes minimum). Mental health - check :-)

-     Keep to a basic household routine using my Plannerisms planner - this is definitely related to
      simplifying things, and I have been doing this on and off, but really need to knuckle down and
      stick with it.  

-     Set up a recipe binder - yep, definitely a simplify thing :-)

-     Blog re the 101 in 1001 - I think I can safely say that I have achieved this.

-     Manage bank accounts properly - this could fit into simplify.

-     Sort through the hallway cupboards - definitely simplifying things as this would mean I would
      have less junk, and would actually know where things are...

-     Sort through the boxes upstairs that haven't been unpacked yet - as above

-     Take fish oils daily for 3 months - completed :-)

-     Take iron supplements for 3 months - likewise :-)

-     3 month Facebook ban (apart from personal messages, adding my own photos etc) - this would
      definitely be a good step in simplifying things - it would stop me wasting so much time for 3
      months so I can get others things done.

-     3 month Keep In Touch project (letters, calls etc) - simplify? Hmmm... not sure. It's adding things
      to do, where previously (for many people) I could keep in touch via Facebook - undecided.

From this we can see that I have managed to complete six more items, and am closer to finishing another, taking my total up to 74 completed challenges.

The challenges that fit with neither of my keywords and would definitely be cancelled are as follows:

-     Load all music on tapes to iTunes.
-     Have music playing all day & no TV/ computers for whole family (x3).
-     Spend 10 minutes teaching/listening to boys reading.
-     One big family day out every month.
-     Teach boys to swim or arrange lessons.
-     10 photos sessions with the boys.
-     Write a short story for the boys.
-     Take a one hour walk on my own (x3)
-     Read 5 books in German
-     Write a poem
-     Take camera on days out and use it
-     Learn to use a proper camera.
-     3 month Keep In Touch project? - undecided.

So 13 items to come off the list, which would take me down to 88 in 1001 days, so not completing the challenge, but doing what's right for myself and my family at this time.

If I were to choose option 3, then I will ass a few more tasks re simplifying things, and improving health.

-     Stop reading blogs for 3 months (excluding FiloLifestyle, as this has been started by Karine from
      the FB group of the same name, which is full of great people encouraging each other in their
      health, fitness, financial, and organisational control). This does not mean that at the end of the
      three months I can go back and read all the posts I have missed...

-     Deutsch in 30 days book, this will help ensure that my basics are correct, and I can do this on the
      train each day.

-     Complete one round of P90X3 (started)

-     Follow nutrition guide for P90X3 - doesn't have to be totally rigid as I'm not on a quest for
      dramatic results (started)

-     Have a Facebook cleanup

Also, my 40th birthday is this year, before the end date for the 101 project, so there may be a few that I would add to the list to go with that (possibly to go to New York, and things to see or try while I'm there).

So, in summary, I think we can remove option one from the running as being a bit pointless. All it would do is show that, yes, I can follow something through to the end with pure dogged determination, and that I am happy to sabotage my life to do so... really, does anyone want to be that person.

Option 2 - I've completed 74 items, so could just call it a day.

Option 3 - reduce items to 88 (possibly adding others), therefore not completing the 101 anyway, but getting further.

So - 2 or 3, which is it to be?

I will be thinking about this and will be making my decision this weekend - so if you've stuck through to the end of this post (which I rambled into my notebook last night while on painkillers), treat yourself to some chocolate or something to replenish your energy after having to follow all this inane withering.

I'll keep you posted (in a much shorter post hopefully).

LJx

P.S. Sorry, my spellcheck has just refused to work, and I've rambled so much that I can't face reading through it all again, so I apologise now for spelling and typing issues... and any random autocorrects that may be in here. :o)

Saturday, 28 December 2013

101 Progress Check - December 28th 2013

Hi Guys,

I hope you have all had a great Christmas and are looking forward to a fabulous New Year. I had a lovely Christmas day, and was spoilt, and then caught a cold which really sucks. I scribbled a few notes to write this post on Boxing Day, but then felt too rough to actually post anything lol :-)

It's been a while I'm afraid, but as you can see below there has been movement on my 101 for a number of reasons, so very little to post.

I tried to carry on with the classic films by watching Some Like It Hot, but unfortunately I've only been able to watch an hour of it so far (in two sittings) so still have a way to go on that one. I have recorded a few classic films over the last couple of days (Christmas is a great time to record films on the telly), so just need to find time to watch them. They're not ones that were on my initial list of ten that I would like to watch, but they are still classic films, and I would like to watch them. Now I just need to find the time to watch them - a bit trickier as they are on the Cablecom box in the front room, as opposed to being on a DVD that I can disappear off to the bedroom to watch while everyone else is busy with other things (TV or games).

I attempted to make shortbread with my boys on Christmas Eve, but they decided that the only bit they wanted to do was to shape the shortbread. However, although I can't class it as baking with the boys, it was a new recipe for me so I got one base covered :-) It wasn't a total success as we made them a bit thicker then specified and therefore they were under-baked, but they tasted great and were easy to do. Maybe we'll have another go at those soon...

I had planned to embroider a sampler in December, but unfortunately I have struggled to find a template that I like. This hasn't distracted me from the job in hand, but I have bought a different template to use, which arrived on Christmas Eve, so I'll be doing that in the New Year.

I'm still taking my fish oils and iron tablets, and have only missed one day - quite an achievement for me :-)

We received the P90X3 workout programme from Beachbody just before Christmas, and as I struggle to make exercise part of my normal routine unless I have a programme to complete, I have decided to add P90X3 to my 101 list. It's a 30 minute workout, 6 days a week, concentrating on different things each time, and is another programme from Tony Horton, who is a joy to work out with (at least while you feel like you can still breathe).

I also know that when I workout regularly I feel much better in myself, and feel it's time that I climbed back on that horse :-) All I need to decide now is decide which of my other challenges is not as important to me at this time and that can wait until the second half of 2014.

Have a great week,

LJx



Sunday, 1 December 2013

101 Progress Check - December 1st 2013

Hello Everyone!!!

Well, I can safely say that his week I have achieved very little and am now behind where I had planned to be.

Things I need to catch up on are:

          Photo session with the boys
          1 hour walk on my own (I had the opportunity, but was just too lazy and didn't want to go
              out in the cold on my own)
          Family day out - I had intended for us to go to the zoo yesterday, but completely forgot that
              Christopher had to go to Jubla, so that scuppered that idea.
          Wearing heels - I had planned on wearing my higher heeled boots to work with my new trousers
              but just can't face tottering round, especially as we're now getting snow, so I think it will be
              safer to save that one for the spring now
          Plan the story that I am going to write for my boys

However, although I haven't done anything big on my list this week, I have continued to take my fish oils and iron tablets :-)

I cant's see next week's update being any more exciting either as it's month end at work so I'll be pretty busy :-)

Have a great week,

LJx

Friday, 22 November 2013

101 Progress Check - November 22nd 2013

Hi All :o)

Sorry for the lack of update last weekend, I had family arriving on Sunday afternoon so was a bit busy. We all had a fabulous time, including going to see Biffy Clyro on Monday night, which was absolutely amazing!!!

I had my first proper Wednesday afternoon with my boys last week, and it went (almost) as planned. After a bit of a session of stropping, sulking, and shouting (by the older one) we were all in the kitchen chopping onions and pumpkin to make pumpkin soup, which actually turned out really well. As I've never made pumpkin soup before I can count this towards two of my tasks; cooking with my boys, and trying a new recipe - result!!!

I've continued with my short German book of quotes and sayings, despite the frustration, and am planning on getting this finished this week. I'm hoping that when I move from this book to a proper book, i.e. one with an actual storyline, that I will understand it more quickly as the sentences will be in context to the situation. If that doesn't help then it's going to take me a very long time to read the books that I have. I've also started using my Back to School Filofax to write in new words :-)

Yesterday afternoon I had Marcus at home with me, so he wanted to do crafty stuff until Christopher came home from school, so while he was colouring in wooden letters I took the opportunity to make a picture to go in one of my IKEA photo frames. I used various patterns of scrapbooking paper to create a picture in the style of a small child (I'm really not creative enough to do anything more than that). It's not perfect, but then it wasn't expected to be, but I had fun making it. Marcus has decided he'd like it up on the wall in his bedroom - we'll see...

I also watched a classic film from my list yesterday - "The Sting" with Paul Newman and Robert Redford, and I thoroughly enjoyed it. I was half expecting it to drag a bit, but it was really nice to see something a bit different - without the high aggression levels that seem to be almost a requirement of most films nowadays.

I've still been taking my fish oils and iron tablets, not forgetting at all since my last post - I am very pleased. Maybe the fish oils are improving my memory :-)

I have a lot to try to get through before the end of the month to stay on track with my 101 list, keeping my fingers crossed that I can keep it up without dropping a whole host of other balls that are about to be launched in the air... Christmas cards etc. :o)

Have a great week,

LJx

Added:       Just watching the 1955 version of Oklahoma - excellent!!!

Sunday, 10 November 2013

101 Progress Check - November 10th 2013

Hi Guys & Gals :o)

Wow, I feel like I have actually achieved stuff this week, since spending a bit of time last weekend gong through my outstanding tasks and working out which months to do what.

I finished reading Uncle Tom's Cabin by Harriet Beecher-Stowe, which was such a well written piece, that had me almost in tears on the train on many occasions, and it is one that I will definitely read again.

On Wednesday I pulled out all the boxes (and bags as it turned out, including an IKEA bag full of used wrapping paper from last Christmas...oops!!!) from the end of the hallway, and between my other half and myself we got them all bundled up to either return to IKEA (our job yesterday), or put in the cellar ready for the next cardboard collection day.

I've been taking my fish oils and my iron tablets every day - although somehow I managed to forget the iron tablets on Friday.

I've been feeling pretty rough the last few days with a skanky cold that I think I must have picked up from work or the train, so yesterday afternoon I spent a couple of hours in bed watching Cabaret - I did like watching it, and I don't know quite what I was expecting, but that wasn't really it. I probably will end up watching it again, but I can't see it becoming one of my favourites.

I started to read my first German book today, and thought I start of reasonably gently with a small book of lovey type thoughts and sayings. I managed to get through two of them, and I have to say, it totally sucked. This may be partly because I'm feeling rubbish, and it was way too early in the morning (around 6am), but I just found it ridiculously frustrating to have to keep checking my dictionary. I love to read, but I read mainly for pleasure and relaxation, neither I which do I currently believe that I will ever feel whilst attempting to read in German.

I really want to improve my German vocabulary, but am really not thinking that I will achieve this by trying to force myself to read these books. There must be a simpler (and more enjoyable) way. If you have any ideas, please let me know.

Have a great week,

LJx